Why Women Are More Attracted to Married Men
It’s been a long held assertion, and/or old chestnut, that a lot of women find married, or men with partners and girlfriends, more attractive than single men. A quite remarkable fact could lend some credence to this.
This is more interesting than the title may suggest by the way …
If I were to pose the question to you:
What percentage of your ancestors were male & what percentage were female ?
I suspect most would answer as I would:
Well 50 - 50 of course - half men and half women
Well it’s not so !
The majority of our ancestors are female, two-thirds in fact are women and only a third male !
Throughout history the population has always been roughly split straight down the middle but research has shown that that :
80% of women reproduce but only 40% of men do historically
Doctor, psychologists and researchers say that tests have continually shown that women are subliminally more attracted to men that have already reproduced and had children than they are to those who have not.
There are countless stories, articles and anecdotal evidence of men saying that women show more interest in them when they are married or have a partner than they do when they are single.
Genetic researchers confirm that our genetic makeup is spread over a much smaller number of men and a much larger proportion of women.
It does beg the question of how this remarkable fact affects us. The gene pool we all have dictates much of our personality, health, looks and way of life - so does this also mean we are getting gradually more female.
A truly remarkable fact and something that must have some impact today either psychologically or genetically.
Does the fact that most of our ancestors are female or that twice as many women reproduce as men surprise you as much as me ?
If so what’s your take on it ?
Jordan said,
March 27, 2008 @ 8:45 am
That women are indeed the master race!
Little Brother said,
March 27, 2008 @ 8:49 am
Rod,
They’re attracted to the idea of a man with kids until the reality of the little brats and child support fees kicks in. Good luck to them!
LB
Rod said,
March 27, 2008 @ 8:53 am
Jordan
That women are indeed the master race!
That is another point, any man is mainly descended of woman !
I knew you’d win in the end
RC
Lindi Lou said,
March 27, 2008 @ 12:12 pm
Oh Dear, oh dear. I see LB has it all wrong. Us ladies are not attracted to the idea of a man with kids. It’s more the idea of the financial security of the chap in question, or at least one would hope he has that if he’s seen fit to get married, without the strings of housework and baby sick (eugh! I mean who wants that???).
As for the comment that women are indeed the master race, I would definitely have to agree. Men are indeed born of women; in fact most men spend half their adult life trying to ‘get back to where they came from’ anyway, in a manner of speaking….(hope that’s not too crude for a site which is already banned by public libraries!).
Rod said,
March 27, 2008 @ 12:30 pm
LL
I think there is still much in the theory although it is deeper and more ’subliminal’ if you like.
Not so much attracted to the reality of children etc but what it portrays.
Look at the test that pheromones have proved, even in fish tanks, a swab containg human female pheromones sends a tank of male salmon crazy !
The male pheremones can be smelt by women and tests have repeatedly shown that when given blind tests women are most attracted to the man who turns out to have the highest testosterone levels !
Again, nature’s way of saying he’s the best potential mate !
It’s deep an interesting stuff
Best
Rod
Witches of Eastwick said,
March 27, 2008 @ 12:44 pm
Rod,
Another thought provoking subject and not a cleavage in sight, bravo!
Women being subliminally drawn to men who have children could be something to do with feeling safe… as most women want/have children, they perhaps want someone who has experienced being a parent and is therefore part of the same tribe ? It must be a double edged sword since ex partners and children equal baggage that won’t simply disappear. According to a recent documentary there are increasingly more women who are leaving their homes and children…. we found it a moving account of changes in society which will challenge future generations views on the ‘mother’ role.
It’s a tricky choice for the woman… faced with two men, equally attractive, one is a father who has experienced the rollercoaster emotions attached to parenthood and all that role demands…. and one has a new leather jacket
Let us hope though that in the end, as one of your previous posts stated, love will win the day regardless.
WoE
Rod said,
March 27, 2008 @ 1:07 pm
WoE
Another thought provoking subject and not a cleavage in sight, bravo!
Good point, and to be serious I do try and mix it up but it is difficult at times and sods law means certain subject matters seem to present material all at the same time leading to too much of the same sometimes - but I do try
I’m not sure the new jacket is a match for a baby buggy but you never know
I think the point you make about women leaving their homes and children is more evidence that in today’s world everything seems transient to me,people seem to put themselves before their responsibilities.
Both men and women seem less prepared to stick with something, appreciate what they have perhaps as opposed to dwelling on what they don’t have.
The celebrity culture, lifestyle property programmes etc and the ease of credit and lending all adds to a feeling that you can have everything and perhaps the idea that most other people do indeed have everything - in reality few can and those that seek such illusionary things will ultimately be disappointed and miserable.
Regards
Rod
Lindi Lou said,
March 27, 2008 @ 4:14 pm
Rod/ WoE
I agree that the points raised are indeed valid in todays society. People do think they can have whatever they want at whatever cost.
Personally, however, I’d rather just do what makes me happy and try not to hurt anyone else on the way. The simple things in life are often best…like the man with the new leather jacket, providing he’s not daft enough to have got himself a motor bike in middle age to go with it… (Oh dear, I feel another subject coming on!!)
See ya : )
Witches of Eastwick said,
March 27, 2008 @ 6:08 pm
LL,
Sounds like you’ve got your act together generally speaking and we like the statement about simple things in life are often best… like the man … and there you could have stopped, none of us would have disagreed with that
WoE
the dinosaur said,
March 27, 2008 @ 11:04 pm
Rod, todays comments prove one thing, that women love the idea of themselves being the superior and dominant half of their relationships, could it be that they often deliberately set out, maybe not consciously, to find someone inferior to father their children believing it puts them in control? How often do you see attractive looking young women in the company of the most “unlikely” partners, its hardly surprising it all ends in tears and bitter regrets, stereotyping all men as dumb when its they’re own folly.
Meanwhile the intelligent men are left single!
Rod said,
March 28, 2008 @ 7:52 am
Dino
we’re definately the downtrodden sex, of that there’s no doubt
As to women wanting to change men in relaionships etc, this still sounds good.
Women marry a man hoping he’ll change
They never do
Men marry a woman hoping she won’t change
She always does !
Regards
Rod
Josh said,
April 28, 2009 @ 12:20 am
Because moral integrity was thrown out the window long ago. One of two things should happen, either marriage is abolished because it is a foolish and folly institution, or cheating should be made an indictable offense. Either one of these would fix the issues as marriage is archaic and no piece of paper is going to stop someone from cheating, if there is no marriage to cheat on and people understand that sex is rampant and should be done whenever, however and as much as possible then it wouldn’t be a problem. That or cheating sticks you in prison, I’m sure the rate of cheating partners would drop off considerably.
Rod said,
April 28, 2009 @ 8:22 am
Hi Josh
Welcome to the site, thanks for the comment and I hope you’ll return.
I believe marriage is probably entered into too lightly and half-heartedly by many - hence ensuing problems.
As to whether stringent punishment would work I’m not sure, according to the papers I believe tha Taliban executed a couple for having an affair - the threat of that clearly not enough to stop them.
Thanks again for adding to the debate Josh
All the best
Rod
been there done that said,
May 11, 2011 @ 7:46 am
honestly, I don’t feel sorry for most of the women because 1-usually the guy was a lousy husband, and 2-usually, the woman was a lousy wife, and they were both complicit for years, and no one really got hurt but the mistress- I would know, having allowed my youth and beauty to have been sucked up by more than one of these tools, none of which was a prize- believe you me- do not judge, is all I have to say- frankly, the wife winds up the best, with the money and the house, and a new guy if she wants one.
Having said that, I’m laughing at the comments.
BTDT