Comments on: Where Are All the Single Women http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/where-are-all-the-single-women A Site About Everything and Nothing Wed, 23 May 2012 01:01:56 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=1.5.2 Comment on Where Are All the Single Women by: Witches of Eastwick http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/where-are-all-the-single-women#comment-8130 Sat, 24 Jan 2009 10:58:14 +0000 http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/where-are-all-the-single-women#comment-8130 FF, Who said anything about grazing..... <i> sweep the yard and put a pot of tea on </i> surely that's what most women over a certain age want anyway, the male mind is always barking up the wrong tree :) WoE FF,

Who said anything about grazing….. sweep the yard and put a pot of tea on surely that’s what most women over a certain age want anyway, the male mind is always barking up the wrong tree :)

WoE

]]> Comment on Where Are All the Single Women by: Rod http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/where-are-all-the-single-women#comment-8129 Sat, 24 Jan 2009 09:03:39 +0000 http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/where-are-all-the-single-women#comment-8129 FF it gets worse ! when men get to my age they see the greener grass on the other side but can't be bothered to walk over there :) They'd probably be too tired to graze after the walk anyway :twisted: Regards Rod FF
it gets worse !
when men get to my age they see the greener grass on the other side but can’t be bothered to walk over there :)
They’d probably be too tired to graze after the walk anyway :twisted:
Regards
Rod

]]> Comment on Where Are All the Single Women by: Little Brother http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/where-are-all-the-single-women#comment-8128 Fri, 23 Jan 2009 22:06:26 +0000 http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/where-are-all-the-single-women#comment-8128 Femme Fatal, It often is !!!! LB Femme Fatal,
It often is !!!!

LB

]]> Comment on Where Are All the Single Women by: Femme Fatale http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/where-are-all-the-single-women#comment-8127 Fri, 23 Jan 2009 19:12:57 +0000 http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/where-are-all-the-single-women#comment-8127 Rod, Many of us are single because men get to a certain age and think that the grass is going to be greener on the other side :P FF xx Rod,

Many of us are single because men get to a certain age and think that the grass is going to be greener on the other side :P

FF
xx

]]> Comment on Where Are All the Single Women by: Rod http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/where-are-all-the-single-women#comment-8126 Fri, 23 Jan 2009 09:26:00 +0000 http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/where-are-all-the-single-women#comment-8126 LB I think you raise a couple of good points. This is a broad topic and I believe the reasons for the majority of women being unmarried are broad and many fold. For example I read today that a lot of couples with children are faking a split as they get a huge rise in benefits if separated rather than together ! Whilst this must be a relatively small number there are probably many smalller factors like this that all add up in the end. I think you make one killer point - <b>expectations</b> I think an awful lot of men and women have unrealistic expectations of not only each other but life in general (look at personal debt for proof of that) This then breeds dissatisfaction simply because you do not have the perfect partner or lifestyle you dream about. Because something, or somebody, does not match up to a fantasy does not mean it is no good and you can't be happy if only people could sort their heads out ! Cheers Rod LB
I think you raise a couple of good points. This is a broad topic and I believe the reasons for the majority of women being unmarried are broad and many fold.

For example I read today that a lot of couples with children are faking a split as they get a huge rise in benefits if separated rather than together !
Whilst this must be a relatively small number there are probably many smalller factors like this that all add up in the end.

I think you make one killer point - expectations
I think an awful lot of men and women have unrealistic expectations of not only each other but life in general (look at personal debt for proof of that)

This then breeds dissatisfaction simply because you do not have the perfect partner or lifestyle you dream about.
Because something, or somebody, does not match up to a fantasy does not mean it is no good and you can’t be happy if only people could sort their heads out !

Cheers
Rod

]]> Comment on Where Are All the Single Women by: Rod http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/where-are-all-the-single-women#comment-8125 Fri, 23 Jan 2009 09:18:35 +0000 http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/where-are-all-the-single-women#comment-8125 WoE there's no doubt it's a tricky area especially for women who have children as I mentioned. Every time this type of subject comes up there is always a bias that I notice straight away. The stats and the questions all follow the bachelor - spinster route Why can't the woman find a husband ? Why won't the man get married ? The connotation is always the same no matter how subtle sometimes, the single woman is left on the shelf where as they man is the bachelor about town. That still pervades even today, it's nonsense and an over simplification. It's a fact the women are keener on marriage than men but to still peddle the above scenario as a catch all is nonsense in today's world ! Best Rod WoE
there’s no doubt it’s a tricky area especially for women who have children as I mentioned.
Every time this type of subject comes up there is always a bias that I notice straight away.

The stats and the questions all follow the bachelor - spinster route

Why can’t the woman find a husband ?
Why won’t the man get married ?

The connotation is always the same no matter how subtle sometimes, the single woman is left on the shelf where as they man is the bachelor about town.
That still pervades even today, it’s nonsense and an over simplification.
It’s a fact the women are keener on marriage than men but to still peddle the above scenario as a catch all is nonsense in today’s world !

Best
Rod

]]> Comment on Where Are All the Single Women by: Little Brother http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/where-are-all-the-single-women#comment-8124 Thu, 22 Jan 2009 23:36:25 +0000 http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/where-are-all-the-single-women#comment-8124 Rod, A really good post that and WoE has excelled herself. Maybe it's the fear of the unknown or rather the experienced which has much to do with single people 'risking it'. Perhaps we raise the bar too high and expect too much from a person but I find it very sad when a relationship is founded on what one looks like and what the other one has, the two rarely last when put together! LB Rod,
A really good post that and WoE has excelled herself. Maybe it’s the fear of the unknown or rather the experienced which has much to do with single people ‘risking it’. Perhaps we raise the bar too high and expect too much from a person but I find it very sad when a relationship is founded on what one looks like and what the other one has, the two rarely last when put together!

LB

]]> Comment on Where Are All the Single Women by: Witches of Eastwick http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/where-are-all-the-single-women#comment-8123 Thu, 22 Jan 2009 22:28:15 +0000 http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/where-are-all-the-single-women#comment-8123 Rod, It's a meaty subject and one debated on a fairly regular basis by our circle of acquaintances, married and single. Incidentally there aren't many singles from our own circle left this year .... previously we knew lots but most have found partners over the past twelve months or so. In fact we're off to a wedding this summer where both are mid forties... must say we can't wait to have a knees up and wear a party frock (we'll be moth-balling it for yours Rod :) ). If only women could have children in their 60's and live to 120ish, fit and healthy and able to bring up their offspring and concentrate on that, having had a fabulous career with plenty of financial security. Sadly the clock ticks away so most women already have their children when they find out that their partners aren't going to stay the course. What percentage of estranged parents want to or indeed can pay the full amount required to meet the bills..... not many in our experience and we all know where that leads. How women hold down full time demanding jobs while their children are young we'll never know.... no wonder they look warn out (not all perhaps) by the time the kids leave home. Anyone who has ever had to look after kids day after day and struggle with all the heartache that it brings will understand the pressures involved. Adults can hurt each other and most of us know how that feels but when kids are involved the pain can be hugely magnified.... or at least that's our opinion. By the time we all reach our mid forties there isn't the rush or expectation perhaps to have a family so things can slow down. People are wary with good cause and probably rather stuck in their ways by that time and less likely to want to compromise. Either way it's always nice to see people get together and as you've said before Rod, there's someone for everyone out there..... it's just finding the right one. Now, all we have to do is get hold of those Government stats conveniently gathered together on a CD and left on a train, then make a few calls to see whether any of these women are interested in you.... remember to emphasize your kitchen garden skills and sock etiquette :) WoE Rod,

It’s a meaty subject and one debated on a fairly regular basis by our circle of acquaintances, married and single. Incidentally there aren’t many singles from our own circle left this year …. previously we knew lots but most have found partners over the past twelve months or so. In fact we’re off to a wedding this summer where both are mid forties… must say we can’t wait to have a knees up and wear a party frock (we’ll be moth-balling it for yours Rod :) ).

If only women could have children in their 60’s and live to 120ish, fit and healthy and able to bring up their offspring and concentrate on that, having had a fabulous career with plenty of financial security. Sadly the clock ticks away so most women already have their children when they find out that their partners aren’t going to stay the course. What percentage of estranged parents want to or indeed can pay the full amount required to meet the bills….. not many in our experience and we all know where that leads. How women hold down full time demanding jobs while their children are young we’ll never know…. no wonder they look warn out (not all perhaps) by the time the kids leave home. Anyone who has ever had to look after kids day after day and struggle with all the heartache that it brings will understand the pressures involved. Adults can hurt each other and most of us know how that feels but when kids are involved the pain can be hugely magnified…. or at least that’s our opinion.

By the time we all reach our mid forties there isn’t the rush or expectation perhaps to have a family so things can slow down. People are wary with good cause and probably rather stuck in their ways by that time and less likely to want to compromise. Either way it’s always nice to see people get together and as you’ve said before Rod, there’s someone for everyone out there….. it’s just finding the right one. Now, all we have to do is get hold of those Government stats conveniently gathered together on a CD and left on a train, then make a few calls to see whether any of these women are interested in you…. remember to emphasize your kitchen garden skills and sock etiquette :)

WoE

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