Comments on: When Did the Age of Chivalry Start http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/when-did-the-age-of-chivalry-start A Site About Everything and Nothing Thu, 09 Feb 2012 01:14:43 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=1.5.2 Comment on When Did the Age of Chivalry Start by: Rod http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/when-did-the-age-of-chivalry-start#comment-10174 Sat, 17 Oct 2009 11:08:01 +0000 http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/when-did-the-age-of-chivalry-start#comment-10174 Hi Katy, thanks for taking the time to comment and welcome to the site - hope you'll return. You make a good point and it leads me to think . . . Why do we need a specific word or description for wat is basically decent and pleasant behaviour. If everybody treated everyone with in just the way you and I would do Katy what a difference that would make. Thanks again Katy All the best Rod Hi Katy,
thanks for taking the time to comment and welcome to the site - hope you’ll return.
You make a good point and it leads me to think . . .
Why do we need a specific word or description for wat is basically decent and pleasant behaviour.

If everybody treated everyone with in just the way you and I would do Katy what a difference that would make.
Thanks again Katy
All the best
Rod

]]> Comment on When Did the Age of Chivalry Start by: Katy http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/when-did-the-age-of-chivalry-start#comment-10173 Sat, 17 Oct 2009 08:58:27 +0000 http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/when-did-the-age-of-chivalry-start#comment-10173 I'm always surprised to see this constantly about women liking bad guys and not good guys. Also about chivalry being dead. I disagree about both. Chivalry is not dead. I am a woman, and I hold doors open for men and women. I help someone if they drop their papers, I open the car door for my friends if they are my passenger. Chivalry now is just not about gender. It's about kindness. What's wrong with that? (Sorry, I realise this is an old thread but I just came across it and thought I would comment.) I’m always surprised to see this constantly about women liking bad guys and not good guys. Also about chivalry being dead.

I disagree about both.

Chivalry is not dead. I am a woman, and I hold doors open for men and women. I help someone if they drop their papers, I open the car door for my friends if they are my passenger. Chivalry now is just not about gender. It’s about kindness. What’s wrong with that?

(Sorry, I realise this is an old thread but I just came across it and thought I would comment.)

]]> Comment on When Did the Age of Chivalry Start by: Rod http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/when-did-the-age-of-chivalry-start#comment-9096 Sat, 27 Jun 2009 15:52:20 +0000 http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/when-did-the-age-of-chivalry-start#comment-9096 LB, absolutely ! It is a mystery to me as well but when you look around you see it all the time. The 5 men I probably know the best are all decent, successful and respectful guys and what do they have in common ? They are all single ! You'll never see an unfaithful husband or wife-beater on their own. Like you I cannot be bothered with the silly games, all I ask for is what I give, but that seems too much to ask for ! Best Rod LB,
absolutely !
It is a mystery to me as well but when you look around you see it all the time.
The 5 men I probably know the best are all decent, successful and respectful guys and what do they have in common ?
They are all single !

You’ll never see an unfaithful husband or wife-beater on their own.

Like you I cannot be bothered with the silly games, all I ask for is what I give, but that seems too much to ask for !

Best
Rod

]]> Comment on When Did the Age of Chivalry Start by: Little Brother http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/when-did-the-age-of-chivalry-start#comment-9095 Sat, 27 Jun 2009 15:28:23 +0000 http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/when-did-the-age-of-chivalry-start#comment-9095 Rod, Maybe I'm old fashioned but wouldn't it be easier all round if we treated each other with mutual respect and care? Why can't a man be a gentleman towards a woman and she acknowledge and respect that accordingly. Why a woman wants to be treated badly is, frankly beyond me. Who needs mind games? Call me boring but I can't be bothered with it. LB Rod,
Maybe I’m old fashioned but wouldn’t it be easier all round if we treated each other with mutual respect and care? Why can’t a man be a gentleman towards a woman and she acknowledge and respect that accordingly. Why a woman wants to be treated badly is, frankly beyond me. Who needs mind games? Call me boring but I can’t be bothered with it.

LB

]]> Comment on When Did the Age of Chivalry Start by: Rod http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/when-did-the-age-of-chivalry-start#comment-9093 Sat, 27 Jun 2009 11:06:09 +0000 http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/when-did-the-age-of-chivalry-start#comment-9093 FF, outstanding comment - many thanks. Interesting point about the fantasy side of thing, could it be we don't really want our fantasies in real life ? I fully understand the lure of the 'bad boy' image, that is to say the rock star, criminal, Colin Farrel style hellraiser etc but is there not a distinction between those type of men and those that simply treat people badly. I understand the attraction to the guy who is a bit dangerous and ends up fighting outside the pub etc but they are not mistreating the women in their lives. <i>“Treat em Mean and Keep em Keen”</i> Now there's a saying ! I think there's some validity in it as well. I suspect it works because they won't take you from granted and not really bother any more - complacency could be the problem ! The whole thing should be a lot easier than it is ! Regards Rod FF,
outstanding comment - many thanks.
Interesting point about the fantasy side of thing, could it be we don’t really want our fantasies in real life ?

I fully understand the lure of the ‘bad boy’ image, that is to say the rock star, criminal, Colin Farrel style hellraiser etc but is there not a distinction between those type of men and those that simply treat people badly.
I understand the attraction to the guy who is a bit dangerous and ends up fighting outside the pub etc but they are not mistreating the women in their lives.

“Treat em Mean and Keep em Keen”

Now there’s a saying !
I think there’s some validity in it as well. I suspect it works because they won’t take you from granted and not really bother any more - complacency could be the problem !

The whole thing should be a lot easier than it is !
Regards
Rod

]]> Comment on When Did the Age of Chivalry Start by: Femme Fatale http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/when-did-the-age-of-chivalry-start#comment-9091 Sat, 27 Jun 2009 09:36:42 +0000 http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/when-did-the-age-of-chivalry-start#comment-9091 Rod, I do believe that (speaking from what i know and have heard) women do fantasize about being with a man who treats them like a lady, ie, opening doors, standing when they leave a room, helping put their coats on and all round respect. But the reality is most women these days are not used to it, as you say, we are drawn to the bad boys. I am not sure though, if it is the thrill of the challenge and the not knowing whats going to happen next or the excitement of not doing what others think you should, When I was younger, my parents told me to keep away from a certain group of lads as they were trouble, but I ended up going out with one of them and kept it a secret from my parents. Its a difficult question and one I do not fully know the answer to, but I think the age old saying still stands, "Treat em Mean and Keep em Keen" ( never try to analyse the female mind!) :idea: FF xx Rod,

I do believe that (speaking from what i know and have heard) women do fantasize about being with a man who treats them like a lady, ie, opening doors, standing when they leave a room, helping put their coats on and all round respect.
But the reality is most women these days are not used to it, as you say, we are drawn to the bad boys. I am not sure though, if it is the thrill of the challenge and the not knowing whats going to happen next or the excitement of not doing what others think you should, When I was younger, my parents told me to keep away from a certain group of lads as they were trouble, but I ended up going out with one of them and kept it a secret from my parents.
Its a difficult question and one I do not fully know the answer to, but I think the age old saying still stands,
“Treat em Mean and Keep em Keen”
( never try to analyse the female mind!) :idea:

FF
xx

]]> Comment on When Did the Age of Chivalry Start by: Rod http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/when-did-the-age-of-chivalry-start#comment-9089 Sat, 27 Jun 2009 07:16:15 +0000 http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/when-did-the-age-of-chivalry-start#comment-9089 LB, tell me about time moving on ! I'm out of place I know, but at least I can hold my head up - just as you can ! Cheers Rod LB,
tell me about time moving on !
I’m out of place I know, but at least I can hold my head up - just as you can !
Cheers
Rod

]]> Comment on When Did the Age of Chivalry Start by: Little Brother http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/when-did-the-age-of-chivalry-start#comment-9088 Sat, 27 Jun 2009 06:54:49 +0000 http://www.rodcollins.com/wordpress/when-did-the-age-of-chivalry-start#comment-9088 Rod, Great post, very interesting. Now can we have a follow up post on 'when the age of chivalry died'. Time has moved on brother, it's not garters they're dropping anymore :mrgreen: LB Rod,
Great post, very interesting. Now can we have a follow up post on ‘when the age of chivalry died’. Time has moved on brother, it’s not garters they’re dropping anymore :mrgreen:

LB

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