I think the age thing is nonsense, I suspect it shows in statistics simply because many people go out less as the get older, socialise less and don’t quite make the efforts in general they once did - hence their ‘chances’ go down.
I think it’s about the person not the person’s age

This goes both ways as well, I remember listening to a guy once complaining that his wife wasn’t interested in sex anymore - you simply had to take one look at the state of him . . .
He looked and behaved like a slob then seeks to blame his wife !

I don’t think anybody ever gets everything Emma - the key is, just as you say, to make sure the key elements are there and to keep working at it

You find find, or keep, a husband/wife/partner without making an effort.

Thanks again Emma
All the best
Rod

I am so pleased you picked this topic! I am nearing 30 and am having somewhat of a midlife crisis!!
Not with looking for Mr right, just about my age in general and am I still attractive? If my husband left me and I was on the wrong side of 30 would I find someone?
Just the other day I sat and started to take stock of my life and the men that have played a big part in it (or lack of!), I realised that for those early years I did not have a list, and basically roamed from one bad relationship to another and only remembered what not to look for!
I didnt have a time scale, and really did not want one, I was under the illusion that things will happen when they happen and you should not go looking for a relationship/marriage to eagerly as you will not see the bigger picture of exactly what you are going to end up with!
What a load of nonsense!
To find a great man that ticks all the boxes you in turn need to tick all the boxes! I found that I needed to work harder at relationships and that I had to have a plan that I shared with my new beau, that he was also going to participate in, obviously that didnt mean I pulled out a list on the first date and started realing off likes and dislikes (this happened in the 2nd week ).
At 27 I did make a list, I still have it, and I have to tell you some of those boxes are still not ticked, but as long as my husband and me are at least working towards them and he knew what I desired from the start, then I am happy with my marriage and choice (when he does help around the house No 6 on list).
And if I where single again I would make a new list and would most probably get the guy to do one aswell, why should it be only women with all the expectations! And why do men just put up with thier lot, maybee if they had lists women might work a bit harder on themselves to be the woman of his dreams!
Great blog as always
Emma x